Your personality is powerful! It impacts your friendships, financial decisions, satisfaction and success! All personalities have their challenges. In a relationship you need to adjust your behavior to balance the other person’s personality type. It is extremely important. Imagine connecting to you’re loving energy with someone who totally frustrates you? Yep, it’s hard to imagine. …
How do you know if you are ready to make a change? From my professional and personal experience, I know that making a change is something you don’t do the first, second or even third time you think about it. It usually takes months of thinking and feeling frustrated before you are ready to take …
The unexpected happens in business and in life. Sometimes the unexpected can be exhilarating and exciting. You get a big bonus or referral of a new client. Someone gives you tickets to a play or sporting event. You meet someone special at a social event. Other times the unexpected can be stressful, frustrating or disappointing. …
Sharing is a great option for supplementing financial and non-financial retirement resources. During the past several decades personal material consumption has overshadowed sharing. People have lived in their own homes, driven their own cars and pretty much kept to themselves. It’s amazing how many people have barely known their neighbors, much less shared something with …
Acting happy when you don’t feel happy is an important skill to master. Sometimes acting happy can help you get more of what you want out of life. Our culture favors happy faces which is evident by the smiles that greet you on billboards and in advertisements. People are drawn to happy individuals. When you …
Once you take the plunge into retirement you will feel the waves washing over you. Retirement can be like jumping into a pool and forgetting that the water isn’t very warm in June. You are all excited and happy and then you aren’t! I’ve helped hundreds of people of all ages start their own business …
When planning for retirement it is important to consider non-financial factors and how they will impact your quality of life. The three biggest non-financial mistakes are failing to plan for how you will find meaning, being unprepared for how retirement will affect your relationships and underestimating the emotional impact of this transition. Retiring is a …
I help my clients make big decisions regarding their work and business life. Many come to me when they are transitioning from being an employee to being self-employed. Others are business owners who want more and “better” clients. Recently I am seeing more people who are thinking about semi-retirement or full retirement. As part of …
As a retirement and business coach, as well as a professional counselor, I know that retirement today is about more than financial security. In the old retirement model there were fewer years to plan for since people didn’t expect to live to be 90 or older. The focus was on protecting your money and participating …
Encouragement is motivating and inspiring. It propels positive action. When someone you know is feeling frustrated or discouraged it is natural to want to encourage them with suggestions and advice. You may think that you are offering a gift…your concern and your good ideas. The thing is, suggestions and advice don’t feel good to someone …
“You never listen to me”, “You always have to have the last word”, “I never get any attention” are examples of the black and white thinking that not only impedes effective communication, but also indicates that a deeper emotional issue needs to be addressed. “Always” and “Never” statements convey accusation, judgment or self-pity and tend …
Complaining is expressing dissatisfaction or annoyance ABOUT a state of affairs or an event. Judgment is a critical component of any complaint. The secret about complaining is that there is a difference between complaining and expressing YOUR feelings. Expressing your feelings is healthy. Complaining is not. In business and life, many people believe they are …