One of the questions I hear most often is, “What should I do?” My answer is almost always the same: It depends. People are often disappointed by that response. They want a clear answer—a right decision, a perfect solution, or reassurance
Loneliness isn’t just about being alone. It’s about feeling unseen — like when you’re a member of a smaller group or community but no one truly knows you. It’s not the absence of people; it’s the absence of connection to
Hard times are unavoidable—but how you respond to them can change everything. Practicing tough love with yourself isn’t about harshness; it’s about courage and pushing past fear so you can create the life you truly want. Everyone goes through tough
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is more than just a buzzword—-it’s a set of essential skills that can transform how we understand ourselves and others. It will help you have more satisfying and successful personal and professional relationships. As a counselor and
Asking for feedback is a fabulous personal growth tool. It’s helped me grow both personally and professionally. As a counselor and life coach it’s part of my process. It’s a habit! In my personal relationships I’ve been less diligent about
I worry about the people I love. It’s been part of my identity since I was a little kid. It’s one of the ways I prove or show how much I care or love someone. Over time it becomes a
I have helped hundreds of people give up a steady paycheck. It’s not easy. Transitioning from employee to self employed or retirement changes your relationship with money. A steady paycheck offers security, stability and a familiar lifestyle. Inconsistent income or
You are at a party or some sort of social gathering and sure enough you find yourself in a boring conversation. Part of you wants to scream and get the h*ll out of there, but that’s really not an option.
You act like you aren’t angry when you absolutely are. This is a problem. I’m sure you agree. As a professional counselor I’ve witnessed clients denying their anger for over 40 years. Several years ago it became my mission to
You are forced to wait for an answer you want to know now! There is nothing you can do to speed up the process. All you can do is wait and see what happens. It’s easy to start worrying. You wait
Change is hard. It causes you to feel anxious as you don’t know how it will work out. Even if you have properly planned there are always things you can’t know ahead of time. For me, what helps is thinking
Have I lost my mind focusing on how someone looks? It might seem so, but I promise that’s not the case. When it comes to attracting something you want like a new job, new friend, new clients it helps to