One of the questions I hear most often is, “What should I do?”
My answer is almost always the same:
It depends.
People are often disappointed by that response. They want a clear answer—a right decision, a perfect solution, or reassurance that they’re making the right choice.
But life doesn’t work that way.
The best decision depends on your unique circumstances. It depends on your values, your priorities, your resources, your relationships, your health, your finances, and what you’re willing to live with. There are always trade-offs.
The same decision that is right for one person may be completely wrong for someone else.
For example:
- Should you retire now? It depends.
- Should you become your parent’s, spouse’s or sibling’s primary caregiver? It depends.
- Should you hire or ask someone to help you with your caregiving responsibilities? It depends.
- Should you move to be closer to family. It depends.
Good decisions begin with good questions. I believe the best professionals ask more and better questions.
Instead of asking, “What should I do?” try asking:
- What matters most to me? What are my highest priorities?
- What are the trade-offs? What do I absolutely need for myself?
- What am I assuming that may not be true? What do you know for sure? What’s impossible to know?
- What can I realistically handle? What can I handle right now? What changes will require more help?
- Which choice allows me to have the best life possible at this time?
There isn’t a perfect decision. In a specific moment there may be, but then things change. Accept the reality that change is inevitable and never easy. It’s important to that any problem or challenge problem can be solved with more support. You may have money but what about people you can call on? It helps to be resourceful.
That’s why coaching isn’t about giving advice. It’s about helping you think more clearly or broaden your lens. A good coach helps you view your options objectively, and choose with confidence.
The next time you find yourself asking, “What should I do?” remember:
The answer isn’t hidden somewhere waiting to be discovered. It depends on you!
Take good care,
Margo
Margo Geller, Counselor and Coach
404.218.4559
MargoGeller@Gmail.com
www.MargoGeller.com
