As a Licensed Counselor and Business Coach, I continually hear my clients comparing themselves to others. Franklin Roosevelt wrote that Comparison is the Thief of Joy. Many others have written and talked about why comparing is not a good thing. Seems like Rule #1 on How to Be Happier is to “Stop Comparing Yourself …
The unexpected happens in business and in life. Sometimes the unexpected can be exhilarating and exciting. You get a big bonus or referral of a new client. Someone gives you tickets to a play or sporting event. You meet someone special at a social event. Other times the unexpected can be stressful, frustrating or disappointing. …
When approaching a life transition or making a big change, having a Personal Coach or Business Coach with a Counseling Credential can make all the difference. This type of professional will help their clients manage the emotions that have become obstacles on the path to achieving their goals. These difficult emotions include, hopelessness, …
Acting happy when you don’t feel happy is an important skill to master. Sometimes acting happy can help you get more of what you want out of life. Our culture favors happy faces which is evident by the smiles that greet you on billboards and in advertisements. People are drawn to happy individuals. When you …
When planning for retirement it is important to consider non-financial factors and how they will impact your quality of life. The three biggest non-financial mistakes are failing to plan for how you will find meaning, being unprepared for how retirement will affect your relationships and underestimating the emotional impact of this transition. Retiring is a …
As a retirement and business coach, as well as a professional counselor, I know that retirement today is about more than financial security. In the old retirement model there were fewer years to plan for since people didn’t expect to live to be 90 or older. The focus was on protecting your money and participating …
Encouragement is motivating and inspiring. It propels positive action. When someone you know is feeling frustrated or discouraged it is natural to want to encourage them with suggestions and advice. You may think that you are offering a gift…your concern and your good ideas. The thing is, suggestions and advice don’t feel good to someone …
“You never listen to me”, “You always have to have the last word”, “I never get any attention” are examples of the black and white thinking that not only impedes effective communication, but also indicates that a deeper emotional issue needs to be addressed. “Always” and “Never” statements convey accusation, judgment or self-pity and tend …
People in difficult relationships often blame others for their unhappiness. It could be a boss who demands too much, a spouse who doesn’t make time to be together or a friend who isn’t supportive enough. Blaming others impacts your personal power and ability to be in charge of your own happiness. I worked with a …
We know when we are unhappy and though it does not feel good, it is not all bad. Unhappiness is opportunity knocking. Unhappiness has a variety of faces. It can feel like having less energy, being more irritable, not enjoying what used to lift your spirits or warm your heart, ruminating in negative thoughts, feeling …
Money can’t buy happiness, but being happy pays! Increasing your happiness offers benefits beyond making more money. Benefits include better relationships with co- workers, colleagues, clients and customers, less stress when the going gets tough, easier to attract interviews or clients, a better work/life balance and more fun! Some people don’t care about making more …
You’re Not Alone! Stress happens! For no apparently good reason and for every good reason! There is a problem and we strive to solve it. Many books have been written about stress management and it has been a hot topic for years and years. Some say that there is good stress and bad stress. Not …