You act like you aren’t angry when you absolutely are. This is a problem. I’m sure you agree. As a professional counselor I’ve witnessed clients denying their anger for over 40 years. Several years ago it became my mission to help people understand the power of anger and why it needs to be embraced. Anger …
You say “I’m not angry!” when you are. Wonder why? Read More »
Looking for a new friend? Feeling a bit frustrated? More people are struggling to make a friend. Isolation and loneliness are on the rise. The world has changed! In my personal and work life the topic of friendships comes up often. Having friends is important for your health and happiness! Making friends can be …
Why It’s Hard To Make Friends, plus suggestions! Read More »
You settle, I settle, We all settle. It happens. Why do you settle for less? How do you stop doing it? You know that settling backfires and yet you do it. The way to stop doing it is to get comfortable saying No! Say no to what you know isn’t right for you. Listen to your …
Happy New Year! Every year I choose a few words to promote personal and professional growth. This year they are FEEL, SAY and DO Feel what’s hard to feel Say what’s hard to say Do what’s hard to do I’m inviting you to choose one, two or all three and join me in making your …
Do you know what you want or what would make you happier? Sounds like a simple question but for most it isn’t. There are many possibilities to consider. It’s important to be specific. It’s especially hard to know when you are down on yourself or depressed. Nothing will feel quite right. When looking for a new job …
Don’t Start Searching till You Know What You Want and Why! Read More »
I bet this has happened to you. A potential client, employer, friend, boy or girlfriend seems interested in you! You feel great. Excitement and adrenaline are in abundance. It’s tempting to project a positive outcome. Sometimes this occurs and other times it doesn’t. When it doesn’t you are upset. Naturally! It’s not uncommon for someone to …
How to Handle an Unexpected Rejection when Interviewing and Dating Read More »
Your feelings are hurt by someone you care about. You wonder if you should say something or if it will somehow make things worse. When done the right way there is no downside. It’s important that they know in order to keep enjoying your relationship. I’ve learned that when I don’t speak up I’m …
Why You Want To Tell Someone They Hurt You and How To Do It Read More »
Being Courageous means doing something you are afraid will hurt you in some way. Before your bravery kicks in you go back and forth between I want to and no I don’t. Don’t fret if this goes on for a while. Sometimes that’s necessary for finally doing it with confidence and conviction. You have opportunities …
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Deciding who to work for or date is a big deal. You know how important it is to feel like you and the other person are a good fit. In my work as a Business and Life Coach I am constantly emphasizing the importance of relationship selection and Not Ignoring The Red Flags! Why Do You …
When you’re really down or discouraged it’s tempting to feel sorry for yourself. You believe that nobody can fully understand what you are going through. If you shut down in self pity I can tell you first hand that you will feel worse. Getting out of a negative emotional place is not easy but …
You say you can’t and yet you know you can. What does it take to say something you are afraid to say? Do you believe the better person doesn’t get upset and if they do they pretend they aren’t. I hope you agree that this sounds awful and certainly not authentic. It makes it impossible …
How to Become Better at Saying What You Are Afraid to Say Read More »
We tell ourselves we are happy (or not) and is that the truth? How do you know if you or someone else is truly happy? Some people try to convince themselves they are happy and other people are happier than they realize. Happiness is complicated!! We pursue happiness. It’s part of our Constitution! Who doesn’t …