Hard times are unavoidable—but how you respond to them can change everything. Practicing tough love with yourself isn’t about harshness; it’s about courage and pushing past fear so you can create the life you truly want. Everyone goes through tough times. As painful as they feel, you will get through them—and often, something better is […]
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Emotional intelligence (EQ) is more than just a buzzword—-it’s a set of essential skills that can transform how we understand ourselves and others. It will help you have more satisfying and successful personal and professional relationships. As a counselor and life coach I help my clients understand the importance of “Focusing on Feelings First, Solving
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Asking for feedback is a fabulous personal growth tool. It’s helped me grow both personally and professionally. As a counselor and life coach it’s part of my process. It’s a habit! In my personal relationships I’ve been less diligent about feedback. Working on this blog has prompted me to ask more often. It’s been good,
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I worry about the people I love. It’s been part of my identity since I was a little kid. It’s one of the ways I prove or show how much I care or love someone. Over time it becomes a burden. When I can’t “get them” to do what “I think” will help them feel
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I have helped hundreds of people give up a steady paycheck. It’s not easy. Transitioning from employee to self employed or retirement changes your relationship with money. A steady paycheck offers security, stability and a familiar lifestyle. Inconsistent income or no longer making money from your job takes time to get used to. It can
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You are at a party or some sort of social gathering and sure enough you find yourself in a boring conversation. Part of you wants to scream and get the h*ll out of there, but that’s really not an option. Yes, you are stuck but maybe you can start seeing it as a challenge.
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You act like you aren’t angry when you absolutely are. This is a problem. I’m sure you agree. As a professional counselor I’ve witnessed clients denying their anger for over 40 years. Several years ago it became my mission to help people understand the power of anger and why it needs to be embraced. Anger
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You are forced to wait for an answer you want to know now! There is nothing you can do to speed up the process. All you can do is wait and see what happens. It’s easy to start worrying. You wait for a potential prospect or employer to get back to you. You wait when dating
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Change is hard. It causes you to feel anxious as you don’t know how it will work out. Even if you have properly planned there are always things you can’t know ahead of time. For me, what helps is thinking about it as an adventure! Anxiety about change and uncertainty will intensify as you get
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Have I lost my mind focusing on how someone looks? It might seem so, but I promise that’s not the case. When it comes to attracting something you want like a new job, new friend, new clients it helps to like the way you look. In fact it can help a lot! Confidence is King!
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Sharing a personal struggle takes courage and commitment. It’s scary to expose weaknesses and express something that puts you at risk for being judged. A success or progress story can provide hope and inspiration, especially for those dealing with a similar struggle. Knowing the benefits for yourself and others may motivate you to do it
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This personal story is a bit raw and took some courage to post it. It’s meant to be educational and inspirational. I had a serious disorder and couldn’t have recovered without professional help. It’s part of why I became a professional counselor and coach. I became anorexic around 14 years old. My story started at overnight camp.
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