You settle, I settle, We all settle. It happens. Why do you settle for less? How do you stop doing it? You know that settling backfires and yet you do it. The way to stop doing it is to get comfortable saying No! Say no to what you know isn’t right for you. Listen to your head, heart and gut!
How to Stop Saying Yes When You Need to Say No!
This isn’t easy. Once you experience enough pain working with the wrong clients you’re more motivated to do what’s hard to do. By that I mean… saying No! Yes may come automatically but that can change. Practice saying no when the stakes are small. Gradually work up to saying no when it really matters. Be patient and kind to yourself. Remember that “Progress Is A Process!”
You settle when your confidence is low. Fear and insecurities take over. After the real estate market bubble popped my business took a big hit. I was scared. I started making negative predictions about my future business success. Luckily I didn’t settle by lowering my rates and added more business coaching groups where I made more money per hour. Group coaching is more affordable for clients.
I have settled for less many times. Sometimes it’s because I want to please a good referral source. When they refer a family member or friend (not a 7-10) I feel like I can’t say no. Obviously that’s not true. If I want more clients and am tired of waiting I’m temped to settle for less than a 7 (1-10 scale) What’s helped is educating people about who I work with. I share my Ideal Client Profile.
You make better decisions from an emotionally centered place. It’s easier to say no or confront a challenge when you are centered. When you feel down or discouraged from making negative predictions stop and shift your focus. Remember the future is unknowable. I shift or get re-centered by doing yoga, taking a walk, writing in my “feelings” journal, focusing on my breath. What do you do?
“Smart” Networking is about building relationships with the “right” people. In order to do that you have to say no to the wrong ones. A great life requires rewarding relationships.
Be Brave. You can do it!
MarGO!
Professional Counselor, Business and Life Coach
Call or Text: 404-218-4559
Email: MargoGeller@Gmail.com
www.MargoGeller.com
