Unresolved inner conflicts wreak havoc on your physical and psychological well being. They keep you from being at peace with yourself and having the satisfaction and success you seek. Everyone deals with inner conflicts. As they continue, sometimes for years, you become frustrated and eventually emotionally exhausted experiencing a variety of stress related conditions.
Inner conflict is the result of two opposing motivations inside one person. These motivations are based on conflicting beliefs or conflicting needs. Nobody can avoid inner conflict or when a need arises that conflicts with another need. Beliefs are deep seeded and form without your awareness.
An Example:
A client was conflicted about whether or not to retire. He believed (and feared) he would lose status and not be respected like he was throughout his career. He needed (and wanted) more free time to visit his out of town children and grandchildren, as well as travel. His wife had already retired and was wanting him to do the same. He would set a date to retire and then change is mind. He finally called me 🙂
Resolving an inner conflict takes time. It usually requires reflection and reaching out for help. Find a friend who can help you or contact a professional counselor. Remember that life circumstances are constantly changing. Sometimes the conflict resolves due to reasons (positive and negative) outside your control (the corona virus, changes in your industry)
Eric Erikson said “A man’s conflicts represent what he ‘really’ is.” He understood the unconscious influences and how that is the most challenging aspect of resolving inner conflict. The more you understand the unconscious influences on your inner conflict the quicker you can feel better.”
SIX STEPS For Resolving Inner Conflict
- Being aware of the conflict
- Digging for deeper understanding
- Accepting your truth
- Taking action by speaking your truth
- Acknowledging how much better you feel.
- Reviewing what you learned
Most decisions involve some degree of inner conflict. It’s only after you make them that you realize what you really wanted or needed. The good news is you can always make a new decision and it will likely be a better one. Learning from our mistakes or bad decisions is the only way we can have a truly better life.
Cheers to Creating a Better and Better Life!
MarGO!
Professional Counselor, Business, Career and Life Coach
404-218-4559
MargoGeller@Gmail.com
www.MargoGeller.com
