You are excited about a new opportunity. Your life is going to be so much better. Then down the road you realize this too isn’t the right fit. It’s hard to acknowledge that you are unhappy. How do you handle this stressful situation? What will make it easier?
You wish you could change the way you feel and avoid the pain of parting. Many people do decide to stay for a variety of reasons. Fear is the big one. They are afraid of not finding something better. They are afraid of upsetting someone they still care about. This is tough!
I’ve left jobs and relationships that I didn’t expect to leave when I did. Reviewing my journal I found lots of evidence for not feeling connected to my best self. My top talents weren’t being used. I had lost touch with what makes me happy. If only I had known what I know today. Luckily, It’s never too late!
My work as a business, career and dating coach has had a big impact on MY life. I am constantly sharing my wisdom from over 40 years of helping clients have a much happier work and personal life. It continues to make me more motivated to Walk The Talk!
Currently I am doing that. It isn’t easy. In fact it’s very hard. I’m using my best self care tools. They include journaling, exercise, meditation, yoga, talking to and getting together with close friends and spending more time in nature. I have also reconnected with my former counselor.
Even with a strong support system the work is mine to do. It takes commitment, courage and a deep desire and willingness to reach my goal. I am determined to chose a better fitting personal partner in the future. I see myself experiencing a more meaningful, enjoyable and enriching life. I can’t wait!
Leaving a job or relationship requires emotional endurance. Weathering the wide range of difficult emotions is challenging. You will feel sad, angry and maybe even embarrassed. Other times you will feel fine. All feelings are facts and will continually come and go.
What’s most important is: Maintaining a strong personal and social support system
You do this by…
- Knowing and taking care of your physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and financial needs
- Doing more of what makes you feel really good… be honest with yourself.
- Addressing your communication vulnerabilities… not speaking up or being aggressively reactive
- Realizing you are frustrated, irritated or angry… Notice where there is tension in your body
- Expressing your anger in a healthy way (use my signature tool… scribble and scream!)
- Staying connected to your closest friends or those you know without a doubt love you
- Being open to professional help and support
I compare staying in a job or relationship that isn’t right for you like wearing pants that are too tight. You can do it and yet it doesn’t feel good and the longer they are on the worse you feel.
One more thing to know… It will never be easy and there is no perfect time to share your truth knowing the other person will be upset. Prepare by making sure your support system is in good shape. Let me know if you would like my help.
Hope you have a peaceful and plentiful Thanksgiving.
MarGO!
Professional Counselor, Business, Career and Life Coach
404-218-4559
MargoGeller@Gmail.com
www.MargoGeller.com
