Care less! Sounds crazy, but let me tell you why… As a Successful Entrepreneur, Business Owner, Self-Employed Professional or Executive, I bet you’ve been guilty of caring or doing too much. What happens at work is you sacrifice your personal well being to get more pats on the back or make others happy. How do you figure out how much caring is enough? What can you do to reign in your caring, over-doing or perfectionistic ways?
Unfortunately, until you can care less or closer to the right amount you and your business or career will suffer. I help my “over-caring” clients who tend towards perfectionism to understand and embrace the concept of “Good Enough!” It’s one of the best business building and life enhancement tools.
Why do you care in the first place? Caring is an engaging and energizing feeling. Striving to always do your best feels good and especially when you get recognized for a job “very” well done. Only problem is it’s not sustainable and eventually you burn out and become unhappy.
Finding an appropriate level of caring can be challenging. You need to behave differently and be prepared to push past your emotional obstacles. Change is uncomfortable and certainly at the beginning. It helps to get good support in place before you start.
How do you know that you are caring or doing too much?
- More tension in your body, especially neck, shoulders and back.
- Increase in negative or critical thoughts towards yourself or others.
- Less motivated to help others or be productive
- Feel resentment towards those you have helped too much
- If you are lucky someone who cares about you will let you know… with kindness!
What can you do to care or do less?
- Take responsibility for your part rather than blaming or complaining.
- Have easy to use stress management tools such as taking three slow deep breaths.
- Reflect and refocus on your professional and personal priorities
- Reduce your to-do list and delegate more
- Reward yourself along the way as this won’t be easy
Sometimes striving for more satisfaction and success at work and in relationships requires reeling in your caring. If you are interested in caring or doing less, now you know what to do and I suggest starting asap!
MarGO!
Professional Counselor and Business, Career, Life Coach
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