We all have regrets. They make us feel bad. What you probably aren’t aware of is the power they have to propel you in a positive direction. A regret is an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Each regret is a valuable resource!
They are always about the past. You focus on what you didn’t do or if only I had… What a waste of time and energy and yet we are brain wired and even expected to relish regrets. You need to feel bad about something that didn’t work out. Punishment is somehow good for the soul. Go figure!
“Regret: The Persistence of The Possible” is a book by psychologist Janet Landman. I love her positive take on regret. You have wisdom and it wants to be your best friend. You can maximize your regrets if you stop being your own worst enemy. Reframe and Rejoice!
How does regret impact your Job, Career or Business? I also wonder how it impacts your personal relationships and self-esteem. My hunch is regret has taken a toll on all of them. Changing the way you view and relate to regret will change your life! It is fun to be bold!
Reframe Regrets and Have A Better Life by…
- Paying attention to negative thoughts and talk about past experiences.
- Noticing how you feel. Make room for your feelings. Express them through talking, screaming, writing, drawing…
- Accepting that you are human and realizing what you learned.
- Refocusing on the future and what you need to have more of what you want.
- Treating yourself with kindness and care
- Asking for help if you need it.
You will have regrets no matter what. It’s your choice as to whether you indulge in them or reframe and move on and up!
MarGO Geller, LCSW
Licensed Counselor and Business, Career, Life Coach
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