When you make a change you give up what you are familiar with in exchange for something new and hopefully better. It takes time to adjust partly because of the losses involved. Even if you are excited about the change expect to flow in and out of good and bad feelings.
Recently my mother at 86 years old and a widow willingly moved into a luxury senior living community leaving behind many good memories from the home she lived in with my father. It’s definitely a difficult time for her due to feelings associated with present and past losses.
During the course of your career you change jobs or move into a new role many times. Their are gains and losses each time. The losses may lead to feeling bad or overly stressed. You may temporarily think you made a mistake. Hang tight and know that this is normal and with time it will get easier until the next change!
Dealing with loss demands a grieving process. A sense of shock, sadness and anger will almost always arise. Eventually you get to acceptance. The goal is to acknowledge and manage difficult emotions in a healthy way. It’s when you push them away or deny they even exist that you get stuck in an unhappy spot.
As an emotions manager expert I encourage you to find healthy ways to express your uncomfortable feelings so you can live life more freely and fully. Find ways to release your anger such as pounding on piano keys, punching clay or a punching bag or do a “Scribble and Scream” which is my signature anger releasing tool.
Become a better person and enjoy life more by choosing change when needed and embracing the losses that come with it. It’s important to be gentle and patient with yourself. Search for support from those you feel closest to or possibly even a counselor or coach. Change and Loss truly travel together!
MarGO!
Professional Counselor and Business, Career, Life Coach
404-218-4559
MargoGeller@Gmail.com
www.MargoGeller.com
