Maya Angelou an American poet and award winning author is famous for the quote…“Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst, and unsurprised by anything in between”. What a wise woman she was.
You hope for the best outcome with every decision you make. Many times you get a positive outcome and feel great about your decision. Other times it doesn’t go well (even with hard work) or as well as you hoped it would and you wish you had made a different decision. Either way there is always something to learn!
How do you increase your odds of getting a good outcome and also prepare for the worst? What is needed for a good outcome? What can you do to prevent or prepare for a possible bad outcome? What is within your control and what isn’t?
In Business and Life you make many decisions every day. This blog is about decisions that involve a relationship. Some examples include selecting a business or personal partner or a client, employee or employer. Staying committed to your Ideal Profiles on the front end is crucial. If there is a red flag related to a “deal breaker”… Pay Attention and Push Pause!
Why do you ignore red flags and move forward anyway? One reason is based on fear of never finding what you want or feeling desperate. The other reason comes from feeling overly excited because you have been flattered off your feet! With both you have lost your center and your rational brain is out of order!
AN IDEAL PROFILE: Is a description of your ideal candidate or relationship. I recommend using bullet points. Make sure you include your highest values. My Ideal Client is responsible, reasonable, open minded, kind, committed to self improvement and appreciates my expertise. Be clear about your “must haves” as well as “deal breakers”. Your sweet spot is between a seven and ten on a 1-10 scale.
How do you prepare for a worst case situation? I suggest preparing to avoid it. Schedule a weekly check-in to assess satisfactions and dissatisfactions. If a significant dissatisfaction or issue can’t be resolved then it’s time to make a change. The important thing is to communicate along the way and know you have tried your best to get a better outcome.
Circumstances change that you have no control over (Covid-19). Relationships have been challenged during the current pandemic. What You Can Control is how often and honestly you communicate and your commitment to collaborative problem solving. It’s also important to understand and meet the new needs in your relationships.
Life happens In Between! We live life in the gray zone. Never black or white. This concept helps with self love and self esteem. Your love of self will grow as you accept that outcomes will occur on a continuum or In Between very good (Best) and very bad (Worst).
Wishing you a week filled with self love!
MarGO!
Professional Counselor, Business, Career and Life Coach
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